When was the last time you felt you were in absolute control over your life? How often does everything work out just according to your plan?
If the answer to both questions is never, don’t worry! This only means one thing – you are 100% human. No one – not even professional organisers, can be completely, flawlessly organised. Surely, you can think of at least one mum you know who seems to have everything under control. Does this mean she is some sort of superhero? As much as I would like to say ‘yes’ and write it off as some bug in nature’s algorithms, it is much simpler than that.
Has anyone told you that there are eight simple traits every mum could use to make organising her family’s life easier? Feel free to consult with this simple list whenever you feel lost and in a dire need of a miracle:
#1 Balance Home & Work
The first step in everything is always the trickiest. Most mothers struggle to find a balance between their duties at home and their career. As we all know ‘nothing is impossible’, so you just have to put your mind into it.
Imagine that you have old-fashioned scales with a tray on either side and a suspended arm across the top. If you place too much ‘home’ at one side, you will loose the balance. The same will happen if you focus too much on ‘work’. The key is to maintain a healthy ratio between both.
What to do when the scales are already unbalanced? The answer is simple, yet very tricky. You have to take the load of the trays and start from the very beginning. Slowly and methodically add a bit of work then a bit of home to either side. In theory, this sounds perfect but in real life there will be moments when the scales tip. It is up to you to re-balance them.
This is what you can learn from the first trait of the organised mum. If you decide to make a change in your life, you CAN do it!
#2 Get Things Done
As a modern mum you have quite a lot on your plate. So, how can you manage to finish all tasks on your To Do list, especially if your time seems more limited than ever?
1. Prioritise: If you haven’t learnt how to by now, it is high time to do it. Don’t forget that your priorities might change at any give moment, it is an inseparable part of life. So, you have to be flexible and know when to give up on a project.
2. Ask for Help: Don’t try to do everything on your own. Be a smart mum and figure out on which tasks you need help and ask for it.
3. Give up on Being Perfect: Chances are a lot of the things you have planned won’t turn out the way you wanted but that’s OK, too. Your perfectionism might prevent you from enjoying precious moments with your family, so try to subdue it as best as you can.
#3 Be Organised
Is chaos an inseparable part of your everyday life? No matter if you have decided to embrace it, or you are constantly struggling with it, you should try to become more organised. How to do it? There are two areas of organisation:
- Your Space
- Your Time
Both are equally important, so don’t neglect one or the other. It is a common misconception that key to proper organisation are your tools and equipment. A pile of clipping boards, timetables and countless cute bicker baskets won’t help you, not unless you have a plan how to use them. Analyse what is going on in your life and how an you instil order. Then compile your action plan and work on each step until you you achieve your goals.
These are the first three traits of the Organised Mum you need to focus on. On Wednesday, I will continue with the other five. I would really like to hear what you think about them.